I was just perusing the posts on one of my daily reads, lilsugar, and came across the following post:
Adults say the darnedest things. The other day I shared an elevator with a woman who looked at me and asked, "So when are you due?" Breaking a smile I said, "Thanksgiving Day!" She looked at me and said, "Whoa! Twins?" I replied, "No. Just one." Used to insults from my last pregnancy, I left the store thinking that I don't care if I gain a whole bunch of weight as long as I have a healthy baby. But, it would be nice if people would keep their thoughts to themselves.
People aim some of the rudest comments at childbearing women. During my first pregnancy, one lady said to me, "I can tell it is going to be a girl by the way you're coming out on the sides." Who says that? What was the worst thing someone said to you while you were pregnant?
Oh my goodness, I can totally relate! I have gotten the "are you sure it isn't twins?" from my mom's cousin's wife and a total stranger in a store. I have also gotten the "I can see you're having a girl from the way you're carrying on the sides." Shut the eff up! People think this is cute, but it's not. Women remain conscious of their bodies no matter if they are pregnant!
Truth be told, I really haven't gained an extraordinary amount of weight. As of now, I think I am like 23 pounds. It looks like a lot more on me, because I'm small and petite. But it's ALL belly and boobs. I've got myself quite a belly, that's for sure. My doctor says everything is perfect. I'm also in the 3rd tri, where I wake up and my belly has seriously ballooned overnight! It's crazy.
I was at the market yesterday, just shopping for the week. There was a guy just hanging by his car outside (not a store employee), who so kindly offered to help me with my groceries. It was really genuine and nice. He said, "You really shouldn't be carrying anything heavy right now." I appreciated his concern and thanked him, but was totally OK with loading my car with the bags. He then asked if we knew what we were having, and wished me all the best.
Now that kind of pregnancy attention is always appreciated.
Monday, August 11, 2008
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Several months ago, this woman on an elevator at The Wynn insisted that I was "having a boy because [I was] carrying low."
As you well know, I'm not pregnant.
I think this is worse.
people can be idiots :/
It's kind of funny that I didn't take offense to references of where I was or wasn't spreading during pregnancy. It really didn't bother me when people speculated as to my size. When someone said I was huge, I agreed. I had a baby in my belly for crap's sake. Since I was young my fav phrase was, "You're pregnant? But you're just a baby yourself!" complete with looks of shock and disapproval. Nice.
Hi, just a lurker here, but at least people know you're pregnant. With my last one, all I got was, "oh my god I didnt even know you were pregnant, I couldn't tell!" Uhhh, thanks, so what you're saying is I just look like an enormous fat cow on a regular basis - awesome!
i can't believe some people would say stuff like that, wow.
i haven't experienced pregnancy yet, but friends/family who have say the random comments from strangers, and the unwanted belly rubbing, can be the worst part! although the guy who helped you seemed to have a clue, so its good to know those kind of people exist as well :)
i know, i've gotten the twins part and then the you're so huge or big. It's like don't you think i know that, but I don't need you reminding me. It's not a complement you know. But then I've got the nice people who say, you don't look big for how far along you are or you're all belly and from behind you don't look preggo at all.
i hated unsolicited comments from folks i didn't know.
hell, i often disliked comments from ones i DID know.
but none of those were as bad as the random belly touchers. um, i don't remember granting you permission to molest my belly, fuckyouverymuch.
I love that the market dude was so helpful! On the flip side, I am stunned that people don't have any social skills. I hope I've never said anything like that... :(
Idiots. Especially the women who've been there and done that and should know better.
People say crazy stuff all the time. When I was pregnant with Lila, I mostly got the "You're so tiny?" or "Are you sure you're pregnant?" or "When I was pregnant I was a lot bigger than that at that point." All of those drove me nuts, b/c I was self conscious enough about how small I was. However, I still had someone talk to me and make a comment assuming I was having twins...and I obviously didn't look like I was. I think some people just say it to everyone.
Everyone would say this to me too! I always got the "you sure it isn't twins?" I think because we're small and don't have anywhere else for the baby to hide so we show a lot more. But by the end people were surprised I was almost due and not big. Go figure. So don't worry, all the compliments come at the end. By then you'll get the, "When are you due? Wow. You look great. Never would've thought." :)
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